Self control

He had always been a good colleague and great family man, but a few months ago he started having huge fights with his wife.

He was lucky to find a great job and as he wants to keep it he always gives his best. The schedule is demanding, but worth it, because he learns a lot. He even agrees o stay for an extra hour or more whenever they ask him to.

Sometimes he realizes that he has more work than his colleagues, but he has decided not to beg for equal treatment. He ignores the bad feeling, because he suspects that it could hurt his relationship with his employer if he insists on expressing it.

In the family he is also overwhelmed because since his mother is widowed he feels he cannot deny her anything.

Sometimes he would like to spend some time with his family, but he cant leave his mother alone. When his mom calls to tell them that she would like to cook for them on the weekend because they cook the entire week, he doesn’t know how so say no. He knows she feels happy being useful.

So everybody is happy, and he is proud of what he is doing. But the other day he screamed at his wife, Begona, for no reason.

She had asked him if they could start thinking about applying to schools before the possible spaces for their son were taken. But he took it badly!

He wasn’t himself after saying, “Do I have to be in charge of everything! You don’t know how to do anything alone!” Begona went to her room more sad than mad, and he realized that what he did was inappropriate.

This had already happened with his sister.

So, as a mature man knows he can not fix things with force, he decided to sign up for a yoga class and learn to relax, not to raise his voice any more, and to take things easy.

But curiously the problem of unexpected rage is not improving. He still feels he cannot not keep it from coming out with his loved ones and even sometimes with strangers. He keeps exploding for no reason.

So, what is the solution to let you relax more and control your anger?