{"id":1048,"date":"2020-05-12T23:33:31","date_gmt":"2020-05-12T23:33:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/?p=1048"},"modified":"2020-05-12T23:33:31","modified_gmt":"2020-05-12T23:33:31","slug":"a-responsible-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/en\/solutions\/a-responsible-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"A responsible mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-886\" src=\"http:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/madre-responsable-300x238.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/madre-responsable-300x238.jpg 300w, https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/madre-responsable-768x611.jpg 768w, https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/madre-responsable.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Marta and Carlos have been together for a few years and the birth of their twins has not separated them, although communication between the two is complicated and the concerns of the kids take a lot of time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Now the kids are in 5th grade. Young Pablo\u2019s grades keep going down while his sister Clara has always been the one that studies the most. Carlos does not give Pablo\u2019s low grades much importance, because even though he also had bad grades in school, he now earns a good living with his own business. But Martha is seriously concerned about what will happen to Pablo in high school: \u201cI don\u2019t understand. We we have raised him exactly as we raised his sister. So what is wrong with him?\u201d<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Every afternoon, Martha is the one who picks the kids up from school. So she sits with Pablo to encourage him, to help him do homework, to help him feel supported and not stuck. Last year he passed all of his classes but just barely. This year is harder and he is listless and sometimes a bit aggressive. His attitude darkens the atmosphere at home. Every day when Carlos comes home, he finds there has already been a fight and Martha is mad because because she had to punish Pablo for not having finished most of his homework. And every night Clara is on her own.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">\u201cThis is going to change!\u201d Marta says one day after having read some books on parenting and the roles of the couple. \u201cEnough of me being the only tough parent!\u201d<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">She asks Carlos if he can leave work earlier and come help Pablo with is homework. \u201cLet\u2019s see if this helps Pablo figure out that he cannot lie to both of us and he has to be responsible. Also maybe he will feel more supported by us.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It seems like a good solution, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">But the fights continue and now are between Carlos and Martha because she gave up on struggling with Pablo. And Carlos is told that he has to be home earlier because if not Pablo is not motivated, and \u201che has to start with math because in class he doesn\u2019t need to be that focused.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">So the situation still has not improved.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Will they make a change, or not?<\/span><\/p>\n<!--themify_builder_content-->\n<div id=\"themify_builder_content-1048\" data-postid=\"1048\" class=\"themify_builder_content themify_builder_content-1048 themify_builder tf_clear\">\n    <\/div>\n<!--\/themify_builder_content-->\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marta and Carlos have been together for a few years and the birth of their twins has not separated them, although communication between the two is complicated and the concerns of the kids take a lot of time. Now the kids are in 5th grade. Young Pablo\u2019s grades keep going down while his sister Clara [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":886,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[239],"tags":[245,309,319,377,463],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1048"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1048"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1048\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/886"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1048"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1048"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psicoterapialisboa.com\/psicoterapialisboa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1048"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}